How To Ask For What You Want

Do you find it hard sometimes expressing your desires to God? Have you ever worried that God may find you pushy or demanding? Or worse, you fear that your prayer will be turned down? Here are 3 things that will help you when you're wondering, how to ask God for what you want.

Asking God for what you want and need is a necessary part of life. And the more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

  1. Ask without fear.

Fear is an obstacle that blocks your capacity to receive. And I’m not just talking about the fear of making your voice heard. I’m also talking about the fear of getting what you want and realizing it’s NOT what you’d hoped it would be.

You may also fear losing it, and the fear of what will happen if you don’t get it. These are all very common, and they can get in the way of going after the things you yearn for most.

Here’s something to bank on. You can be fearless If you’re asking God for anything He says you can have in the Bible – because He’s already said you can have it.

Be brave and ask for what God says you can have – no fear necessary!

  1. Ask with trust.

When you don’t believe you deserve what you’re asking for - and if you don’t believe you’re worthy – you’re not going to be open to receiving it, and you probably won’t get it.

Say this with me OUTLOUD: “I won’t get it if I don’t trust God to give it.”

Did that sink in?

Ok, now say THIS:

“All things are possible for those who believe.” (Matthew 19:26)

All things are possible for who?

Those who believe.

That’s trust. Use it and get what you’re asking for!

  1. Ask without expectations.

When you want something you might be required to ask more than once - And you can’t get too attached to how receive it.

Sometimes God’s delivery truck looks different than what we would expect.

Back in college, I remember praying for a certain young man to wake up one day and realize I was the greatest catch on the planet. I wanted him to marry me. I expected to have his last name.

Guess what? Didn’t happen.

But God did answer my prayer and give me a husband that is amazing and better for me than what I was asking for. Had my expectation been met, I would have hooked up with the wrong guy.

I’m glad God doesn’t always give me what I’m expecting!

If you want love, Pray for love. But know that it might take a while and it may not come from the person you expect.

If you want a satisfying career, understand that you make get it, but it may not be in the field, position, or timeframe you thought it might come in. 

So write these down inside your Bible or prayer journal and let them help you guide your prayers:

  1. Ask without fear.
  2. Ask with trust.
  3. Ask without expectations.

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Little Prayer Tip Makes Your Prayers More Energized and Laser Targeted

When I was a kid I thought if I wasn’t praying on my knees - my prayers weren’t as powerful. Crazy thought, huh? Oh, you too? Yes, let’s be honest, we’ve all wondered if we had to be in a certain posture to experience potent prayer results.

I watched my grandma and grandpa, both mega prayer warriors, pray that way. When I’d spend the night at grandma’s house, before bed, she’d get down on her knees and pray.

Now, I loved my grandma dearly, gramps too, but now I know, praying on my knees is not the ONLY way to pray. Especially if you have knee problems!

Today, I want to give you a tip that will get you on your feet so you can feel more energized during your prayer time and create laser targeted prayers.

You may have heard studies about of standing while working on the computer or at a desk. And there’s been a lot of talk lately explaining the advantages of “stand up” desks. It increases productivity as well as decreases obesity (Win. Win.)

Ok, so what’s the big deal about stand up desks and what does this have to do with prayer?

We think better when we are on our feet.

A study from the Texas A&M Health Science Center School of Public Health finds students with standing desks are more attentive than their seated counterparts.

In fact, preliminary results show 12 percent greater on-task engagement in classrooms with standing desks, which equates to an extra seven minutes per hour of engaged instruction time. (Click here for original article on

If we think better when we’re on our feet, then we’re going to pray better when we’re on our feet. Why?

It's because our thoughts direct our prayers.

When was the last time you tried to pray without thinking? ...Ok, bad question, because we do whip out little prayers without thinking, don’t we?!

But, if you’re wanting to be laser focused in prayer so you can really zero in on something that needs to change, you’ll get more out of that prayer if you’re thoughts are clear, and you’re full of energy.


In fact, right now as I type this, I'm standing at my standup desk. Yep, I'm standing in my Nike Roshe Running Shoes, because that's what I wear when I have a lot of desk work to accomplish and I want to stand comfortably for long periods of time.

Working at my standup desk makes me more productive, and have more energy which makes me feel better about what I'm doing too. And might I add, more fun.

So guess what I do when I pray?

I usually slip into my Nike’s, (or other comfort shoes) and I pray while I'm standing or walking around my room. (Or walking around the back yard or neighborhood - my two other favorite prayer spots.)

I find I have more energy and focus if I'm standing or walking while praying.

It's no secret, that moving gets your brain pumping and clicking on all cylinders.

So if standing while working at a desk helps you to stay focused and accomplish more, then standing while praying will help you pray prayers that are more laser targeted and energy infused too.

On top of all that, it just makes prayer more exciting and fun. And who wouldn't want that?

So, again, I'm not saying the only way to pray is standing or walking. I'm just encouraging you to give it a try and you'll find too, that you're more engaged and energized when praying.